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When Melanie Allen and her husband Rob, a quantity surveyor, adopted a five-year-old called Alex, they couldn’t believe their good fortune.
Heartbreakingly beautiful, as well as affectionate, she seemed to be a dream child.
But as the months passed, Melanie and Rob, both now 44, began to see a very different side of their ‘perfect’ daughter – and found themselves sucked into a nightmare in which they faced losing everything …
Jumping out of the car, I could just make out the small, lone figure waiting at the front door.
My heart began to pound. She was so beautiful – and she was smiling.
Her eyes seemed to have a magnetic pull, and as each step drew me closer, they grew larger.
The photo from the Adoption agency had not done those eyes justice.
Nor had it captured the silken gloss of her fair hair, which hung to her waist.
I was in love already.
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As one RAD parent writes, “Fundamental to RAD kids is that they haven’t bonded and are unable to trust. They have learned that the adults in their lives are untrustworthy.
Trust hasn’t worked for them.
Without trust, there cannot be love, and without love they are emotionally underdeveloped.
Instead of love, rage has developed within them.”
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Alex makes perfect sense to me.
Her rage, everything. Perfect sense.
Social Services have a child who’s angry with them, with their decisions. And good grief, so she should be Angry.
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