I would love to adopt a Russian or Romanian child but I CANNOT afford the outrageous fees. How can I ?
Are there any organizations that would help with the costs of foreign adoptions?
I already have two biological children and I have considered just using a sperm bank and having another biological child but I feel drawn to adopting a foreign baby.
First of all, it is very, very common in Russia and especially Romania to keep their orphans in large orphanages and emotionally neglect them. Reactive Attachment Disorder and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome are very, very common, but not diagnosed. Please, read about both of these disorders and reconsider. Do your homework because you won’t get some grateful, loving child who will leap right into your arms and live happily ever after.
Please, please read up on both disorders.
Also, the IRS does issue some hefty tax breaks to parents who adopt internationally or through the U.S. foster care system. Foster kids come with a few benefits that international kids won’t have – you will have access to diagnostic services, a monthly stipend (which will help if you have a special child), medical care, and tons of resources.
If you are doing this for humanitarian reasons, consider adopting a U.S. foster child.
There are groups on yahoo for international Adoptions if you will search in yahoo groups – they give wonderful advice.
more info on RAD
www.littleprince.org
www.radkid.org
www.fascets.org
www.olderchildadoption.com
www.attachmentdisorder.net
I commend you for wanting to do this, but please – take of the rose-colored glasses and media blinders. Do it, but prepare yourself.
Adopt a child from an orphanage where you live. Many people want to adopt kids from different countries, but America has children that need to be adopted too, don’t forget about them.
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It is easy to find ! But why Russian or Romanian ?
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First of all, it is very, very common in Russia and especially Romania to keep their orphans in large orphanages and emotionally neglect them. Reactive Attachment Disorder and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome are very, very common, but not diagnosed. Please, read about both of these disorders and reconsider. Do your homework because you won’t get some grateful, loving child who will leap right into your arms and live happily ever after.
Please, please read up on both disorders.
Also, the IRS does issue some hefty tax breaks to parents who adopt internationally or through the U.S. foster care system. Foster kids come with a few benefits that international kids won’t have – you will have access to diagnostic services, a monthly stipend (which will help if you have a special child), medical care, and tons of resources.
If you are doing this for humanitarian reasons, consider adopting a U.S. foster child.
There are groups on yahoo for international adoptions if you will search in yahoo groups – they give wonderful advice.
more info on RAD
http://www.littleprince.org
http://www.radkid.org
http://www.fascets.org
http://www.olderchildadoption.com
http://www.attachmentdisorder.net
I commend you for wanting to do this, but please – take of the rose-colored glasses and media blinders. Do it, but prepare yourself.
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I’ve adopted a child with undiagnosed RAD and FAS.
I know good and well that the fairy tale of adoption isn’t what the media portrays it to be.
I would also like to do a foreign adoption but can’t afford it. But, I also know too many people here that were bounced around in foster care, it is just as damaging as the wharehouses that forgein countries use. My husband was adopted out of foster care, so was my best friend. It can be just as rewarding to adopt here. It also comes with the same dangers. Minority children here stand almost no chance of being adopted, either. I’m not judging your decision, EVERY child needs a home, but if money is an issue, check out things a little closer to home.
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