If you had to give your child up for adoption, would you go with an open or closed adoption?
Open adoption is where you get to see your child, to get updates and pictures from the adoptive parents, get them gifts for holidays and birthdays, and they know who you are.
Closed adoption is where you’re not involved in your child’s life and you don’t get any updates or anything.
I prefer Open Adoption, but I want to hear YOUR opinions about this.
You are very confuse about what an open adotion is. Open just means the paper work isn’t sealed and that if the adopted child chooses to look you up at 18 he/she can. Also it means that the birth mother knows where the baby went. In a closed adoption the the birth mother does not know where the baby went and the child may find if difficult to ever find the birth parents due to the sealing of the court papers. In addition, while an open adopting may include the birth parents being sent updates or photos of the child it would NOT include visitation of the child or gift giving at holidays and birthdays b/c that is over stepping boundaries and could be very confusing for the child. My cousin was involved in an open Adoption and she sends photos and updates to the birth mom BUT the birth mom has not seen the child since he was 1 month old and he is now 6. IF he wants to find her when he is 18 he will be able to do so. Her other child was a closed adotion at the birth mothers request. If it were me I would prefer open, not because I think I should have the right to hang around in the shadows of my child’s life, some sort of constant threat to the adoptive parents BUT because every child has the right to know where he came from and what medical things are in the family history and should he want to meed a birth parent once he is an adult he should have the right. All birth parents should understand that giving a child up means REALLY giving the child up so that it can have a life with the new parents and not feel confused or torn between the birth and adoptive parents. That is just selfish and selfishness should never go along with Parenting.
Closed adoption so you can make sure that you pick the right person.
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I would want an open adoption
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Open. I was adopted and I’d like to know who my parents are.
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Open adoption 100%.
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You are very confuse about what an open adotion is. Open just means the paper work isn’t sealed and that if the adopted child chooses to look you up at 18 he/she can. Also it means that the birth mother knows where the baby went. In a closed adoption the the birth mother does not know where the baby went and the child may find if difficult to ever find the birth parents due to the sealing of the court papers. In addition, while an open adopting may include the birth parents being sent updates or photos of the child it would NOT include visitation of the child or gift giving at holidays and birthdays b/c that is over stepping boundaries and could be very confusing for the child. My cousin was involved in an open adoption and she sends photos and updates to the birth mom BUT the birth mom has not seen the child since he was 1 month old and he is now 6. IF he wants to find her when he is 18 he will be able to do so. Her other child was a closed adotion at the birth mothers request. If it were me I would prefer open, not because I think I should have the right to hang around in the shadows of my child’s life, some sort of constant threat to the adoptive parents BUT because every child has the right to know where he came from and what medical things are in the family history and should he want to meed a birth parent once he is an adult he should have the right. All birth parents should understand that giving a child up means REALLY giving the child up so that it can have a life with the new parents and not feel confused or torn between the birth and adoptive parents. That is just selfish and selfishness should never go along with parenting.
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I think closed adoption since it is easier for the child not knowing he/she is adopted till they are old and mature enough to understand , then maybe they could somehow find their birth parents , anyway it dosen`t really matter since the true parents are the ones who raised the child.
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I would not give my child up for adoption. If I had an unwanted pregnancy I would abort.
Open adoptions are unenforceable. They can be ‘closed’ by the adoptive parents as soon as the adoption is complete.
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i would choose Open. That way i could see my child grow,, and my child would no me and who i am rather then thinking that i abandoned him/her. and you are very strong for choosing adoption
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