why are so many young girls talked into Open Adoption by the social workers when they know full well that the people who are adopting the child will probably close the adoption when it becomes final why are they lied to why are these young girl hurt why do social workers lie it can’t all be about
the money that they make don’t these people have a heart or a conscience and social workers are not the only one that do this to unsuspecting young girl the adoption agency’s will do anything in their
power to get that baby no matter what they have to do or say and they will never tell the mother of the life long affect of what losing a child does to the mother and child

I don’t believe they are aware that there’s a strong possibility that the adoption might close.

Often these aren’t social workers anymore either – so many adoptions these days are private and the mothers don’ t even get any kind of counseling to make them aware of the long term affects. Adopters sometimes get attorneys who are the ones who now benefit financially and of course they’re not going to try to scare off the manufacturer of the product – (mother)

I’m not defending open Adoption or any adoption, but I have met lots of young mothers who do try to educate themselves and still choose open adoption. For many years I co-facilitated adoption support groups. We always had a few agencies that suggested that the pregnant young women come to our meetings and speak to first mothers to hear about our experience before making a decision to place their child. Every single mother and some of the adoptees always told them "don’t do it you will regret" – but, some changed their minds and some didn’t.

And by the way, they don’t ALL close. That’s why even though I am opposed, I do believe in a woman’s right to choose and if she makes a conscious choice to place a child for adoption; that has to be respected.