Welcome! We are Becky and Jonathan and we are hoping to adopt a baby! Thank you for getting to know us as you choose what is right for you and your baby. You can reach us at www.jonathanandbecky.com, jonathan.becky@gmail.com, (612) 217-1668, or 1-866-337-4832 (toll-free).
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Welcome! We are Becky and Jonathan and we are hoping to adopt a baby! Thank you for getting to know us as you choose what is right for you and your baby. You can reach us at www.jonathanandbecky.com, jonathan.becky@gmail.com, (612) 217-1668, or 1-866-337-4832 (toll-free).
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Welcome! We are Becky and Jonathan and we are hoping to adopt a baby! Thank you for getting to know us as you choose what is right for you and your baby. You can reach us at www.jonathanandbecky.com, jonathan.becky@gmail.com, (612) 217-1668, or 1-866-337-4832 (toll-free).
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It depends. If the Adoption is finalized in the other country, then as soon as the child reaches American soil they are. If the adoption is not finalized until after the child is in the U.S., then you will need to apply for citizenship after the adoption is finalized.
My son is 8 months old and his biological father wants to give up his rights and not pay child support anymore. He wants my fiance to adopt my son. I live in Minnesota. Does anyone know if this is possible and what the process is? Any help on this issue would be really appreciated. His biological father is getting married and she is pregnant with his child. He is not a good father and my fiance has been taking care of him since his father kicked me out when I was 1 month pregnant.
It is possible, but not necessary. Your fiance can get guardianship, and your child’s father can give up his parental rights. No need to change the child’s identity or birth certificate. Besides, changing the birth certificate at this point could cause the child some issues down the road. Birth certificates are issued at birth, not at 8 months…and with tightened security after 9-11, some adoptees are having issues with their amended birth certificates (people are starting to question why the BC wasn’t issued at birth…it looks suspicious). Better to just keep the original one, and do a guardianship arrangement instead.
My cousin was put up for adoption as an infant because my Aunt was 16 at the time. The baby was a boy and is now 23 years old (I remember year he was born). I always wonder what he is like now, and since he is over 18yrs. old- is the adoption records now open for me to find him- if so, how do I go about finding him. Also, I live in Rhode Island and he was adopted by a family in Rhode Island.
I’m assuming your aunt is still alive, yes? Your best bet would be to talk her to see if she wants to search for her son. You can lend your support & help her search. If she is unwilling, please proceed causiously. Consider her feelings & her reasons for not wanting to search.
If she isn’t alive, talk to your mom or another aunt or uncle. Enlist their help if possible. Rhode Island allows the siblings of deceased birth parents to initiate contact by mutual consent.
Then start with what you DO know. For example, baby boy, born in 19XX, in (City), Rhode Island & adopted in Rhode Island. Include your aunt’s statistics. Her age at time of his birth, etc.
Add the information you have to the following Adoption registries.
http://www.isrr.net/
http://registry.adoption.com/
Unfortunately, Rhode Island isn’t an "Open Records" state, meaning that your cousin as an adoptee will not be able to obtain a copy of his original birth certificate upon request.
Here’s a link to information about searching in Rhode Island:
http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?page_id=91
Check for helpful information about searching here:
http://www.bastards.org/library/search.h…
I hope this helps. Good Luck!
My wife and I are in the process of an open, domestic adoption of an infant.
I am not adopting to "do a wonderful thing". I am adopting so my wife and I can have a baby and a family. We are being selfish.
Oh, I think "the system" of foster care is pretty messed up.. but what is wrong with an Open Adoption through an agency. What is wrong with the birth mom picking my wife and I to be the parents of the child they are carrying?
It sounds to me that all of you angry adoptees must have had crappy people adopt you. I am sorry about that.
What you perceive as negative and critical is just adoptees reaching out to let you know how Adoption affected them. Pay attention to what they say. Adoption can be a wonderful thing if the child can truly not be raised by their natural parents but there are also problems that come along with it. It doesn’t matter if you adopt an infant or an 8 year old. Adoption causes scars that aren’t always obvious. It took me 34 years to truly understand what adoption did to me. If you had asked me how I felt about adoption before that I would have told you that I was grateful and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I now know that all of the problems that I have suffered since I was a child, idenity issues, social anxiety, attachment disorder, depression, trouble with social and romantic relationships etc. etc. were all from adoption.
Read books like the Primal Wound and Being Adopted: the lifelong search for self. Make sure you understand what you are getting into. Know what can happen so that your adopted child will know that it is normal and that they can get help for it and deal with it. Be prepared to parent a child who might not always feel grateful that they were adopted. Let them grieve for the family they lost.
Adoptees are looking out for the children, the ones who adoption is supposed to help. We want to make sure that they are raised in open, honest, environments where they are encouraged to be themselves and not feel pressure to be the child that you couldn’t have biologically. Not that you would ask them too, but as an adoptee that was something that I felt deep down inside.
Also keep in mind that most of the adoptees on here were adopted in the 60’s and 70’s. There were no open adoptions, our records are sealed. We are not allowed to know our history, medical and otherwise. Think about how you would feel if you couldn’t have access to your own records. A lot of us were relinquished against our mother’s will. My non-identifying information basically says that my biological grandmother pressured my birth mother to give me up. It even says that she broke down in court the first time and wouldn’t sign the papers. She signed them 6 weeks later after meeting with a judge who thought that she had matured a great deal during those 6 weeks. Did she mature or just give in? If I ever get to meet her I will ask her.
In the meantime, read the answers with an open mind. Don’t just look for the happy stories, learn from the bad ones. make sure that history doesn’t repeat itself.
My grandmother would like to find her nephew who was placed for adoption as an infant. His birthmother has passed away, and it was her last wish that the family find him. His biological siblings have no interest in finding him, but the rest of the family would love to find him!
Sadly, even with adoption records open in Ontario you will not be able to access idifyentifying information. As a relative you can get non-identifying information and add you name to the Adoption Disclosure Register or, if there are any serious medical concerns, you can apply for a severe medical search. It doesn’t seem to change if one of the first parents dies.
I would get the non-id info and get your name on their registry then start searching on your own.
I am really interested in Adoption. My partner and I don’t have any children and haven’t tried yet either. My mum was an orphan and no one ever adopted her, i think this is where my passion for adopting our first child has come from. what are the age ranges you can adopt? I know it would be difficult to get a baby and the waiting list is huge, what about 9-24months? is that still classed as a baby?
No one adopted your mom. She went through her whole childhood without parents. Can you imagine that? I know I can’t. The older children are the ones who need you most. The older children and sibling groups that might otherwise be split up are in dire need of a loving home. The babies are going to be adopted because most people only want babies. The older kids know this, and that HAS to mess with their heads so much. Well, I guess you can talk to your mother about that since she went through that.
The older kids in care really need someone to look out for them and make them feel welcome and loved. Those would be the children who need help most.
Judge Judy 5/11/2010