My wife is pregnant with what I believe is another mans child.

As born again christians, my wife and I believe abortion to be murder and like many others we believe that abortionists should be killed for what they do.

Since we cannot consider abortion, we want to get rid of the child right away after it is born.

I want to make sure it goes to some born again christians who know right from wrong, decent folk like us.

We do not have much time to go through a long process of papers and whatnot because we have a vacation in Florida already booked for the week following the birth.

Is there some place we can dump the baby where it is guaranteed to go to a born again couple, no questions asked?

Any ideas people?

Assuming that there is some sort of church social planned for your congregation in the near future, you have two options open.

The first (and somewhat more devious) is to surreptitiously place the child on the buffet table, wrapped up like a basket of brown and serve rolls (note, it is important to do this after the food in the surrounding area has been cooked, and not in the kitchen cue). When the banquet is finished, and people are busily trying to snag leftovers and steal each others cookware, the brat will likely end up in the back seat of some good christians car… Problem solved.

The second, and somewhat more straightforward approach involves that most holy of church ceremonies…

I am referring of course to bingo.

By placing the child in the winnings vault at the next bingo get together you can not only assure that the kid will be won by a good christian individual, but that the lucky winner (having claimed the rug-rat publicly, in front of the other members of the congregation) will not be able to return said infant at a later date.

I am a Christian girl and I someday want to have kids. However, I don’t really want to get married because my parents have a TERRIBLE marriage that is put me through a lot of misery. So I am interested in someday adopting a child, but as a single mom. I was reading about it and it seems like a lot of Christians discourage it because it seems to go against the traditional family in the Bible (ie. mom, dad, kids…etc.) But I don’t think I want to get married (and I am against sex before marriage) so would it be ungodly/wrong for me to adopt as a single mom? (as a doctor, well-off salary etc.)

I would not recommend it. I wouldn’t rule out getting married. You can’t assume because your parents have a terrible one, than you will to. It is about finding the right person. Raising a kid alone can be very hard.

I really like the fact that you are open to Adoption and wanting to remain pure and not just get pregnant. That shows a lot of character on your part. Now why can’t you show the same respect to the Baby. Do you really think it would be fair to a baby to deny a Father to the baby? You say your parents have a bad relationship, but coming from a family who’s parents were together for my whole life up until they passed away, I am so glad that I was not raised by a single mother or single father. There is so much that I needed from both a mother and a father. I don’t know what I would be like if I had not had them both in my life. For you to purposely adopt a child with no intention of giving them a father, to me, is wrong.

I suggest you keep an open mind on getting married. Some day you just might meet Mr. Right and live happily ever after with many children.

Christians are against artificial insemination because it is ‘unnatural’, like condoms or birth control. Adoption could equally be considered unnatural, therefore a sin.

I think I confused myself.
I should have said Catholic, my bad.

I don’t know; I haven’t adopted a Christian lately.

900 dead since Christmas from just one of the Christian terrorist groups, the Lord’s Resistance Army, that advocates Adoption of the Ten Commandments as the Constitution of Uganda. And that follows a Christmas massacre of over 400 by the same group:

http://news.google.com/news?q=lord%27s+resistance+army

spiritual blindness

Joh 16:2 They shall put you out of the synagogues: yea, the time cometh, that whosoever killeth you will think that he doeth God service.

Joh 16:3 And these things will they do unto you, because they have not known the Father, nor me.

Joh 16:4 But these things have I told you, that when the time shall come, ye may remember that I told you of them. And these things I said not unto you at the beginning, because I was with you.

Peace!

For example, what would you think about adopting a girl from China named Mei Chung whose biological parents and whole family were buddhists, and then once you adopt her and bring her to your country, you change her name to Tiffany Smith and raise her as Christian?

Try asking yourself if a child born into a US Christian family as Tiffany Smith would have any problem being adopted by a middle to upper class Chinese Buddhist family and being renamed Mei Chung.

She would grow up with a loving family – but she will be surrounded by people who don’t look like her. She can come back to the US for a visit but she only speaks Mandarin. She has very little knowledge of the various Christian denominations. Sounds like a fish out of water in China AND in the US.

Many international adoptees (especially if their ethnic/racial characteristics are distinctly different from those of their adoptive families) grow up feeling disconnected from their "adopted" culture AND their "original" culture. They feel they don’t fit in anywhere.

Case Study: Presently in UK, the christain Adoption agencies has decided shut down if the government makes it illegal [under racial and sexual discrimination laws] for them to turn away gay couples. Homosexuality goes against core orthodox christian values and rather than go against their convictions and obey the law, these agencies are willing to withdraw their services….
Bear in mind that this law has the tendency for government to force their idea of morality on people. The church seeks exemption from having to place children with gay families but does not fanatically oppose gay adoption.
Do you think they deserve special treatment simiply becos of their beliefs? OR should the govt’s law override beliefs and other convictions?
Well, they are not government funded… They run on public donations.

Freedom of religious beliefs is being violated if they are forced to do something against their convictions. They should have to freedom to deny children to homosexuals if they feel that it wouldn’t be in the best interest of the child. I’m sure they have the freedom to deny children to others for other reasons.

And I’m sure there are other Adoption Agencies who are more liberal in these matters and wouldn’t have a problem sending a child to a homosexual couple. Government has gotten way too big and controling!!!

We have been trying to have a baby for over 7 years now. My husband and I would very much like to adopt a baby. We are a Christian couple with so much love to give, but we only have empty arms and aching hearts.

Just thought I would put this out there and leave it in God’s hands. Maybe He will lead us to a birth mom and bless us with a child.

I am in the same situation as you are. Good luck in your quest. You’re in my thoughts.

I can honestly say that no, I wouldn’t.
I think the fear and hatred that is bread into christian children far outweighs these "loving" homes that you all speak of.

I’d be horribly ashamed if my kid turned out to be like one of the fundies on R&S.

depends on the Christians. If they were crazy extremists then no but if they were very open minded and the kind of people who would not look down on my child if she/he decided to join another religion or turned out to be gay or whatever then yeah. I want my children to be raised with hearts and minds open to the diversity of the world and the wonder that brings. Only if the Christian could do that would I be okay with such an Adoption.

I am not a Christian, I am a Buddhist, so please do not mention Churches or give me the links to Christian Adoption agencies. I forgot to mention that in my question, but it is very important.
I wanted an abortion but I got confused about my pregnancy date and stuff and so I’m 14 weeks, not 10 like I thought and cannot get the abortion legally. I do not want to deal with all the stuff that goes with a 2nd trimester abortion. I do not want this baby, I don’t feel anything towards it. I will be 18 when it is born and I want to have an actual life.
So I am considering Adoption, how do I get started?
Rebelgrl – did you read my question? I AM NOT GETTING AN ABORTION, my baby is not going to "die." I wouldn’t care if my mother hadn’t wanted me, she is entitled to her own feelings.
As it was though, she was 41 and happily married when she got pregnant with me, and I was a planned baby.

Even though it doesn’t feel like it now, you are deeply connected to this baby, and this baby is a part of you.

Adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You should talk to people who have done adoption before you make this decision which could harm you and your child for the remainder of your lives. You say you want to have a life, but after adoption loss, life becomes extremely difficult to deal with. You can still have a life with your baby. It will be a new life, with many rewards and challenges. However, if you let someone else raise your baby, you will think about your baby every day, and you will not be able to enjoy the things you normally would, because you will wonder about him/her every day.

I asked a similar question 2 days ago on an account I created for the sole purpose of going on yahoo! answers but my laptop wore out and died last night (5 years old lol) and I forgot the password to it. Soooo I am asking this question again on my email account…

Basically, I miscalculated my pregnancy date and I am a month further along than I thought. Therefore I am unable to get an abortion where I live because I am 14 weeks. I am currently living in France but I am returning to the US on January 27th. In France you cannot get an abortion after 12 weeks unless the fetus is deformed or the mother will die.
It will also be too late for me when I return to the US, as I will be about 5 months pregnant.
I feel nothing towards my baby. Nothing. I do not love it. I do not want it. I am not just confused. I am known about the baby for about 2 months, and never once have I felt anything. I originally was planning to get an abortion last wednesday, as I thought I was 10 weeks, but I was mistaken as I calculated my dates wrong.
I do NOT want my baby. I want to give it away. And I want to pick the parents. I do NOT want a Christian Adoption agency. I am a Buddhist and I would NOT feel comfortable with that! I would also like the parents to be vegetarians, however those are not the only two things I care about. I want them to be decent people and make enough money to support the baby and be able to love it like I can’t.
What agency should I use? NOT A CHRISTIAN ONE!! I would really like to find this dream couple, and I would like to be able to meet them when I get back in the US.
I don’t care about the baby, I just don’t believe in Christianity or meat eating and I don’t want to give people like that my baby, it’s mine and I can choose who to give it to. The rich thing goes without saying, I’m not totally heartless, I want the baby to be well off and have a nice life.
As I said before, I do not believe in Christianity or meat eating. I do not want to create another Christian or meat eater. It has nothing to do with me loving the child.

Did it ever occur to you crazy adoptees that may she really doesn’t care about it but she doesn’t think Christian idiots or meat-eaters deserve a baby? Y’all always jump to the ‘zomg u do want it no matter what even if you really don’t’ bs. Bio parents end up abusing children just as much as adoptive parents so obivously just cuz ya shat a baby doesn’t mean you ever gave a shat -about- it.