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June 30, 2010

Who can help search for my daughter who I gave in adoption when I was 16?

Where would I start looking? Her name is marie michelle and her birthday is on Jan 22 1989

does she know she was adopted do you know? could you really enter her life now and tell her? as much as you love her and want to see her if you truly love her and gave her up for the best dont you want to still do the best for her? is coming into her life the best thing you can do for her?

if your state or provinse has a registry register if she is looking for you you will find each other if not my advice ( I know you dont have to take it and prolly dont like it ) is too mov eon

  1. Go to the hospital where you gave birth to her. I hope you find her.
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    Comment by xwinniesbgx — June 30, 2010 @ 1:28 pm
  2. Start my getting into a detective web site. Good luck to you. This must be a personal hell for you.
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    Comment by Jewell — June 30, 2010 @ 2:11 pm
  3. Blake and Blake Genealogists, they can find any one – alive or deceased. Sorry but I can’t find a link or phone #, thought I had it in my rolodex but it’s not here. I’ve used this company to help find missing relatives for our clients.
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    Comment by Blue Rose — June 30, 2010 @ 2:56 pm
  4. oh!i understand you were quite young.and it is quite thoughtful of to give her a name so that she can be identified.but the best way you can search for your daughter is to go to the hospital or orphanage where you gave her up for adoption.
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    Comment by bertsy08 — June 30, 2010 @ 3:02 pm
  5. I’d start by trying to get information from the hospital, or if you know the name of the adoption agency, which you should since you would have had to sign the consent papers and what not.

    Also, try looking here
    http://www.adopted-child.net/ac/default.asp
    and here
    http://www.lovingjourney.com/index.html– gives you advice on where to start and how to go about it.
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    Comment by reedus_kelley — June 30, 2010 @ 3:42 pm
  6. Hi there. Try and recall the agency or person who you had arranged for the adoption of your child to take place. You can trace the person’s or organisation’s contact details with the aid of a telephone directory. Telecommunications companies also have a service whereby you can request a person’s or organisation’s contact number by dialling a call centre. I stand to be corrected, but i am certain that each country has a data – base of information with each citizen’s information included. If possible, engage in research and try and find out which government department can help you with this. Try contacting the Department Of Home Affairs for information as it is this department that issues identity documents …There are people who are known as tracing agents. Again, in order to locate these tracing agents, phone the telecommunication’s call centre and request the contact details of a tracing agent. Try also the yellow pages for a list of tracing agents. From my interactions with tracing agents, they work on a policy of ‘no trace, no charge’ basis. If you have the means, then request the services of a detective of repute. Seeing that a detective’s profession entails finding information about people, you will hopefully attain a more speedy result. In closing, i’d like to state that i will be praying that God grants you the strength to go through this difficult time and that He reunites you with your daughter as soon as possible. . -Kindest Regards Ghøst
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    Comment by Ghøst — June 30, 2010 @ 4:00 pm
  7. It’s easy to go to Google and type in "adoption search" to find places to list.

    I would also write the adoption agency and ask for the non-identifying information (this is sometimes key information to be sure you have the right person). When entering information on databases, be sure to go to AZ, CA and TX databases as many people change jobs and your daughter could have grown up in really any state. Significant information may not be available to the adoptee, but include hospital born, the city and state of birth, and adoption agency used (and if there is more than one, the one used). In your search, don’t forget to try websites, just searching ADOPTED with the date of birth. Use several forms of the date. My son had a website for 7 years, but listed his birthdate like 22 Jan 1989 instead of the typical 1/22/89. Spell it out, use all forms of abbreviation. Check out Myspace.

    On the plus side, you have a daughter. Boys tend not to search for birthfamily or have the idea that if their natural mother doesn’t find them, she doesn’t really want to find them (got this info from a poster here on Yahoo!answers). They have no idea how hard it is to track someone down!
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    Recently found son.

    Comment by Doodlestuff — June 30, 2010 @ 4:32 pm
  8. I would check with your state to see if there is a registry. It is a database that matches adoptees and birthparents. If your daughter has registered, your info can be matched and each are given an address and contact info. Just remember that alot of adoptive parents change the child’s name, but the dates, times, hospital information stays the same.good luck.
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    Comment by lobstahgirl_2000 — June 30, 2010 @ 5:01 pm
  9. Go to Tina’s Adoption Search. And register with the Adoption Registry site in your state. Then, when and if she wants to find you, they will match you up!

    Also, if you know the placing agency or attorney, contact them and let them know you wish to be contacted, if and when she does as well, they can put you two in touch.

    Good luck!
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    Comment by joslin — June 30, 2010 @ 5:08 pm
  10. does she know she was adopted do you know? could you really enter her life now and tell her? as much as you love her and want to see her if you truly love her and gave her up for the best dont you want to still do the best for her? is coming into her life the best thing you can do for her?

    if your state or provinse has a registry register if she is looking for you you will find each other if not my advice ( I know you dont have to take it and prolly dont like it ) is too mov eon
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    Comment by Jenny — June 30, 2010 @ 5:47 pm
  11. You must go through the adoption agency that she was placed with. If this was a closed adoption, no informaiton will be passed until she is 21.

    Good Luck!
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    was adopted

    Comment by indiansbearsandangels — June 30, 2010 @ 6:34 pm
  12. You can find search angels at http://www.findmybiologicalparents.com
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    Comment by Mira T — June 30, 2010 @ 7:09 pm
  13. it is hard she propably has a whole new name but go to the center you gave her to and ask for all the records of that year
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    Comment by dramamama083097 — June 30, 2010 @ 7:22 pm
  14. I would recommend contacting the agency that was involved with the adoption or the hospital to see if you can leave your contact information for when the child chooses to look for you.

    Good luck to you.
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    Blessed to be a Mother thru the Miracle of Adoption.

    Comment by BPD Wife — June 30, 2010 @ 7:59 pm

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